Judgement and Experience

"What upsets people is not things themselves, but their judgements about the things."
This is a true statement in my opinion, but the idea is not right. In the text it says that things are not really bad, but if we judge them bad then they will seem bad to us. This part is right, but some things really are bad, therefore we judge them as bad. We see things depending on our judgements, but we judge things depending on our experiences, therefore the experiences can or cannot be bad. It's not right to say that all experiences are good in essence and that our judgements make them bad. It would be right to say that our judgements make experiences good or bad, but again, judgements are based on the experiencs themselves. We could try to get the best out of something, and then our judgements would change to make our life better but some experiences would still be better than others. For example, one day you could be attacked by a bear and try to get the best out of it. What's the best thing about being attacked by a bear? Well...you survived, you got to touch the bear, and...what else? Two moths later you get married. You can compare the experiences. You were also alive during the wedding...plus you also got a bunch of other great experiences. You took the best of both situations, but if you were asked "Which of the two moments would yo go back to?", then you would most likely go back to the day of your wedding. They were not equally nice experiences, I don't think it would be a hard decision, so both moments were not equally good in essence. You judged them depending on how good they were and then you classiffied them as good or bad depending on your judgements. That's why people are upset by the things themselves, but indirectly.